In a narcissistic abusive relationship, the narcissist will do all he/she can to exert control in the relationship. The way in which they obtain that control is by slowly disconnecting you from your power. There are many different forms of psychological and emotional manipulation tactics that they may use to accomplish this. Here are the top four that will destroy your self-trust.
People Pleasing is a behavior often learned in childhood as a self-preservation technique. It becomes a way of getting our needs met by receiving recognition or attention for being “the good girl or boy,” the “helpful one,” the “easy-going one,” the “kind and generous one,” the “selfless one,” the “thoughtful one,” the “high achiever,” the […]
The other day, I was driving along the highway with my son on our way for a hike when a truck passed us by with the slogan, “Failure is not an option.” My first thought was, “How appropriate for a logistics company,” followed by, “that statement feels incomplete.” The way I interpreted it, it seemed […]
If you listen to the radio and flip through the stations, you’ll start to notice a pattern in the lyrics of the songs. Similarly, if you were to read any number of romance novels or watch movies that involve a love story, you will also potentially notice the same pattern. Daily, we consume media riddled […]
What kind of relationship do you have with yourself? Do you have high, unattainable expectations for what you can achieve? Do you criticize yourself for how you look, the choices you’ve made, or the goals you haven’t attained? Do you put yourself last? Do you ignore your own needs until you have a physical (illness), […]
Are you struggling in your relationship? How do you heal your relationship or change the trajectory you’re on? You start by doing the work on yourself FIRST. You start by doing the healing you need to do so you can reconnect back to yourself. Then you can make a decision about your relationship from a healed place instead of from a hurt place. You can choose what you want and what you don’t, from a place of wholeness instead of a place of lack. You can make a decision from love as opposed to fear! As you grow, evolve and change, your partner will also begin to heal and grow.